Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

inventive

outgoing

opinionated

nurturing

perfectionist

indecisive

self-centered

power-oriented

tolerant

sympathetic

dominant

enthusiastic

self-serving

suspicious

naive

unsure

decisive

contented

playful

loyal

flighty

arrogant

silently stubborn

worry-prone

sociable

assertive

reliable

kind

self-critical

reluctant

a teaser

bossy

easygoing

carefree

analytical

action-oriented

shy

obnoxious

overly sensitive

critical of others

a good listener

determined

a party person

detail conscious

unmotivated

unforgiving

demanding

vain

considerate

happy

idealistic

responsible

impulsive

moody

passive

impatient

patient

fun-loving

respectful

strong-willed

an interrupter

argumentative

unrealistic

directionless

trusting

independent

even-tempered

dependable

ambivalent

aggressive

frequently depressed

forgetful

gentle

powerful

deliberate

optimistic

judgmental

insensitive

undisciplined

boring

emotional

logical

agreeable

popular

always right

uncommitted

guilt prone

unenthusiastic

spontaneous

well-behaved

pragmatic

accepting

merciless

a show-off

thoughtful

uninvolved

task-oriented

diplomatic

sincere

lively

tactless

lazy

hard to please

loud

direct

creative

a performer

adaptable

self-righteous

self-deprecating

disorganized

calculating

pleasant

confident

charismatic

disciplined

careful

intimidating

afraid to face facts

unproductive

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Fight back with facts and anger.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is free of pressure and stress.

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is filled with people and purpose.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

As a child, I was:

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

As an adult, I am:

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

As a parent, I am:

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

When making decisions, I am:

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

When I fail, I feel:

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

If someone crosses me:

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

Work is:

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

In social situations, I am most often:

Admired by others.

Feared by others.

Envied by others.

Protected by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Approved of and right.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Acceptance and safety.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.