Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

outgoing

nurturing

inventive

opinionated

power-oriented

self-centered

perfectionist

indecisive

sympathetic

tolerant

dominant

enthusiastic

unsure

self-serving

naive

suspicious

decisive

contented

loyal

playful

arrogant

worry-prone

silently stubborn

flighty

reliable

kind

sociable

assertive

self-critical

a teaser

reluctant

bossy

carefree

easygoing

analytical

action-oriented

overly sensitive

shy

obnoxious

critical of others

detail conscious

determined

a good listener

a party person

unforgiving

demanding

unmotivated

vain

responsible

considerate

idealistic

happy

passive

impatient

impulsive

moody

fun-loving

patient

strong-willed

respectful

directionless

an interrupter

argumentative

unrealistic

dependable

trusting

independent

even-tempered

aggressive

ambivalent

forgetful

frequently depressed

powerful

gentle

optimistic

deliberate

boring

insensitive

undisciplined

judgmental

logical

popular

emotional

agreeable

always right

guilt prone

unenthusiastic

uncommitted

spontaneous

well-behaved

pragmatic

accepting

thoughtful

a show-off

merciless

uninvolved

lively

task-oriented

sincere

diplomatic

loud

hard to please

tactless

lazy

adaptable

creative

direct

a performer

disorganized

calculating

self-deprecating

self-righteous

confident

charismatic

disciplined

pleasant

careful

afraid to face facts

unproductive

intimidating

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is filled with people and purpose.

Is free of pressure and stress.

Is task-oriented and productive.

As a child, I was:

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

As an adult, I am:

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

As a parent, I am:

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

When making decisions, I am:

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

When I fail, I feel:

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

If someone crosses me:

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

Work is:

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

In social situations, I am most often:

Feared by others.

Protected by others.

Admired by others.

Envied by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Approved of and right.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Acceptance and safety.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Security, creativity, and purpose.