Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

inventive

opinionated

outgoing

nurturing

perfectionist

power-oriented

self-centered

indecisive

enthusiastic

sympathetic

tolerant

dominant

suspicious

unsure

naive

self-serving

contented

decisive

playful

loyal

worry-prone

flighty

silently stubborn

arrogant

reliable

sociable

assertive

kind

a teaser

reluctant

bossy

self-critical

analytical

easygoing

action-oriented

carefree

shy

overly sensitive

obnoxious

critical of others

determined

detail conscious

a party person

a good listener

unforgiving

unmotivated

demanding

vain

idealistic

happy

considerate

responsible

passive

moody

impulsive

impatient

patient

fun-loving

respectful

strong-willed

argumentative

directionless

unrealistic

an interrupter

independent

trusting

dependable

even-tempered

ambivalent

forgetful

frequently depressed

aggressive

optimistic

gentle

powerful

deliberate

undisciplined

judgmental

boring

insensitive

agreeable

popular

emotional

logical

uncommitted

always right

unenthusiastic

guilt prone

pragmatic

well-behaved

spontaneous

accepting

merciless

a show-off

thoughtful

uninvolved

lively

sincere

diplomatic

task-oriented

lazy

tactless

hard to please

loud

adaptable

direct

a performer

creative

calculating

disorganized

self-deprecating

self-righteous

pleasant

charismatic

confident

disciplined

afraid to face facts

intimidating

careful

unproductive

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Fight back with facts and anger.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is task-oriented and productive.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is filled with people and purpose.

Is free of pressure and stress.

As a child, I was:

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

As an adult, I am:

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

As a parent, I am:

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

When making decisions, I am:

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

When I fail, I feel:

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

If someone crosses me:

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

Work is:

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

In social situations, I am most often:

Admired by others.

Protected by others.

Feared by others.

Envied by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Approved of and right.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Security, creativity, and purpose.

Acceptance and safety.