Color Code

Part 1: Strengths & Limitations This section consists of 30 4-word clusters. For each cluster choose the one trait that best describes how you behaved AS A CHILD. Try not to focus on how you wish you were, or how you would like to be. Remember, your first impression is usually the best.

opinionated

outgoing

inventive

nurturing

power-oriented

perfectionist

indecisive

self-centered

enthusiastic

sympathetic

dominant

tolerant

naive

suspicious

unsure

self-serving

decisive

playful

loyal

contented

flighty

worry-prone

arrogant

silently stubborn

sociable

kind

reliable

assertive

reluctant

a teaser

self-critical

bossy

action-oriented

analytical

carefree

easygoing

overly sensitive

critical of others

obnoxious

shy

a party person

determined

detail conscious

a good listener

vain

demanding

unforgiving

unmotivated

idealistic

responsible

happy

considerate

impatient

impulsive

passive

moody

strong-willed

fun-loving

respectful

patient

an interrupter

argumentative

directionless

unrealistic

trusting

dependable

even-tempered

independent

forgetful

ambivalent

aggressive

frequently depressed

powerful

optimistic

deliberate

gentle

judgmental

boring

undisciplined

insensitive

agreeable

popular

logical

emotional

uncommitted

unenthusiastic

always right

guilt prone

pragmatic

accepting

well-behaved

spontaneous

thoughtful

uninvolved

a show-off

merciless

task-oriented

diplomatic

sincere

lively

loud

tactless

hard to please

lazy

creative

a performer

direct

adaptable

self-deprecating

self-righteous

disorganized

calculating

pleasant

charismatic

confident

disciplined

careful

afraid to face facts

intimidating

unproductive

Part 2: Situations This section consists of 15 situations with four possible reactions to each. Pick the answer that relates most to you. Again, your first impression is the best answer.

If I applied for a job, a prospective employer would most likely hire me because I am:

Patient, adaptable, and tactful.

Fun-loving, spirited, and casual.

Driven, direct, and delegating.

Deliberate, accurate, and reliable.

When involved in an intimate relationship, if I feel threatened by my partner, I:

Fight back with facts and anger.

Become quiet, withdrawn, and often hold anger until I blow up over some minor issue later.

Distance myself and avoid further conflict.

Cry, feel hurt, and plan revenge.

For me, life is most meaningful when it:

Is free of pressure and stress.

Allows me to be playful, lighthearted, and optimistic.

Is task-oriented and productive.

Is filled with people and purpose.

As a child, I was:

Too talkative, happy, and/or playful.

Well behaved, caring, and/or depressed.

Quiet, easygoing, and/or shy.

Stubborn, bright, and/or aggressive.

As an adult, I am:

Opinionated, determined, and/or bossy.

Responsible, honest, and/or unforgiving.

Accepting, contented, and/or unmotivated.

Charismatic, positive, and/or obnoxious.

As a parent, I am:

Concerned, sensitive, and/or critical.

Playful, casual, and/or irresponsible.

Permissive, easily persuaded, and/or often overwhelmed

Demanding, quick-tempered, and/or uncompromising.

In an argument with a friend, I am most likely to be:

Verbally stubborn about facts.

Silently stubborn, uncomfortable, and/or confused.

Concerned about others' feelings and principles.

Loud, uncomfortable, and/or compromising.

If my friend was in trouble, I would be:

Concerned, empathetic, and loyal--regardless of the problem

Nonjudgmental, optimistic, and downplaying the seriousness of the situation.

Protective, resourceful, and recommending solutions.

Supportive, patient, and a good listener.

When making decisions, I am:

Deliberate, precise, and cautious.

Indecisive, timid, and reluctant.

Impulsive, uncommitted, and inconsistent.

Assertive, articulate, and logical.

When I fail, I feel:

Guilty, self-critical, and vulnerable to depression--I dwell on it.

Unsettled and fearful, but I keep it to myself.

Silently self-critical, yet verbally stubborn and defensive.

Embarrassed and nervous--seeking to escape the situation.

If someone crosses me:

I am silently hurt and plan to get even and/or completely avoid the other person.

I feel deeply hurt and find it almost impossible to forgive completely. Generally, getting even is not enough.

I want to avoid confrontation, consider the situation not important enough to bother with, and/or seek other friends.

I am angered and cunningly plan ways to get even quickly.

Work is:

A necessary evil, much less inviting than play.

A most productive way to spend one's time.

A healthy activity, which should be done right if it's to be done at all. Work should be done before one plays.

A positive activity as long as it is something I enjoy and don't feel pressured to accomplish.

In social situations, I am most often:

Feared by others.

Admired by others.

Protected by others.

Envied by others.

In a relationship, I am most concerned with being:

Approved of and right.

Respected, tolerant, and peaceful.

Praised, having fun, and feeling free.

Understood, appreciated, and intimate.

To feel alive and positive, I seek:

Acceptance and safety.

Adventure, leadership, and lots of action.

Excitement, playful productivity, and the company of others.

Security, creativity, and purpose.